About Kate Usher
About Kate Usher
Just after my 46th birthday I was woken one night by intense hot flushes. No preamble no gradual build-up. They didn’t stop and along with many of the other symptoms associated with the Menopause, they became a way of life.
I desperately needed some help with dealing with what was going on inside my body. None of my peer group were experiencing anything, some were still having babies.
I felt very alone. I remember I sat at my friend’s kitchen table and cried. She is eleven years older than me and seemed at that time to be the only person who understood what it felt like. We talked, we drank tea, she calmed me down and took me to the pharmacy where she filled my basket with a range of vitamins and minerals.
It wasn’t about what was in my basket – it was the first positive action, the first step on the journey to understanding what was going on and determining how I was going to deal with it.
The psychological control I felt in that moment drew me back from a very dark space. It was a revelation to me that I could for the first time in what felt like a long time, define what was going to happen next.
There followed years of managing my Menopause the natural way, usually successfully but sometimes not so, but always even in the darkest moments with a sense that I was the master of the perspective of my experience. I couldn’t control my symptoms, but I could control what happened next.
After four years and finally becoming post-menopausal I hoped everything would calm down. I couldn’t have been more wrong. My symptoms went into hyperdrive and spiralled out of control. I knew I needed to take action for myself, so I went to see a Menopause specialist, who within an hour wrote me a prescription for HRT. I recognise that this is not an option for some women, and for others the risks however small are still too high, but my symptoms had become so extreme, I felt it was my only option.
Because of my Menopausal journey, I have experienced a wide range of symptoms and their impact. I have followed the natural route and the HRT route, I see the options for women from both sides and recognise that for each woman it is a very personal choice.
During the many years of my Menopause, I have had to learn how to create, maintain and nurture relationships, whilst sitting in the maelstrom of emotions, anxiety, sweats day and night, crushing loss of self-confidence and intense fatigue to name but a few.
At times the guilt I felt for my own poor behaviour fed all of my symptoms, yet my deep inner need to keep communicating, keep learning and keep loving, meant I never let go. This drive, honesty and passion is why I coach women like us and those we interact with.
I trained as a psychotherapist and hypnotherapist nearly twenty years ago and have since then trained in NLP, Group dynamics, Solutions Focus Brief Therapy and most recently Clean Language. You may or may not recognise these methodologies, but they essentially ensure that as a Coach I have a broad and extensive level of experience and knowledge. I don’t deploy a ‘method’, they’ve all been combined into a personable, accessible, open and empathetic approach. I’ll listen, and we’ll discover and use your resources.
I am a member of the Association for Coaching (AC). This just helps confirm that I am who I say I am and do what I say I do.
I have also worked for numerous FTSE 100 companies managing large global teams, implementing major change projects worldwide – so if you’re in a corporate role, commute to a 5-day-a-week slog, or travel to the furthest reaches of the planet with just a toothbrush and a change of underwear, I understand that too.